Here are 5 clear indicators that someone has some work to do in the self-love department:

They avoid time alone

Have you ever met someone that prefers to jump from relationship to relationship without very little time in between? Or someone with a constant need to keep people around them? When you genuinely love yourself, you can enjoy your own company and sometimes even prefer it. While it’s perfectly okay to enjoy spending time with others, someone who actively avoids their own company may be preoccupied with codependent behavior. It’s a big fat red flag when someone’s need for external attention and approval outweighs…

A s the world waits for the results of this record-breaking election, it is significant to reflect on the unique connection between business and democratic affairs.

When collaborating with clients to develop digital products or launch strategies, I frequently refer to one of my favorite books, Principles: Life and Work. In the book, Ray Dalio, one of the world’s most successful investors and entrepreneurs, outlines strategies he used to achieve unique success at his firm Bridgewater and Associates.

“To be good,” Dalio states, “something must operate consistently with the laws of reality and contribute to the evolution of the whole…

Despite the fact that most of us are on a neverending quest to reach stability, the truth of the matter is that uncertainty is inevitable, especially during a global crisis. Growth as a result of change, however, is another one of life’s constants that can help us navigate future difficulties with grace if harnessed responsibly.

While following Safer-at-Home protocol, I decided to dedicate a few hours a day towards meaningful reflection to check in with my needs, thoughts, and feelings. With limited distractions, I realized that time in quarantine had truly begun to shift my conscious and unconscious thinking.


As a mother to a young Black son, the recent murders of Georgy Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, and Breonna Taylor overwhelmed me with mixed emotions, to say the least. While off to school one day, my son asked if I could help him put on the hood of his jacket — and I lost it — immediately realizing this trivial habit could potentially put his life in danger down the line. Overcome with anxiety and helplessness, I could not control my tears triggered by the idea that the outside world would soon see my sweet 3-year-old boy as a “dangerous thug.”…

You’re flowing through life– setback after setback, disappointment after disappointment–and BOOM! You find out through social media that your old friend has gotten another promotion or that new high-paying job that seems to have just fallen into his or her lap. Or you’re watching TV and you hear about someone’s wildly successful company.

You think to yourself:

“They are my age!”

“Where’s my success?”

“Why is life so much harder for me?”

Although sometimes a naturally passing thought, it would do you some good to release thoughts of comparison as soon as they enter your mind.

Jealousy, envy, and/or disappointment…

To those of us who must work to afford life-sustaining necessities or even maintain a preferred quality of living, we spend a considerable amount of time performing tasks on behalf of our jobs. The average American spends 90,000 hours at work over their lifetime (Business Insider, 2018). Ask yourself, how do I want to spend those 90,000 hours?

There are ways in which we can improve our conditions of employment by examining personal beliefs and making peace with brutal truths that govern reality. …

Identifying your personal boundaries is only half of the battle.

After meaningful reflection to become fully aware of your needs to remain healthy, happy, and whole, you are responsible to then communicate and enforce your boundaries.

An adult life without boundaries can leave you feeling as if you have no control over your life and even promote prolonged states of victimhood or feelings of passive aggression.

Here are 5 simple strategies that help you enforce boundaries that make you feel in control of your life:


You know yourself, your needs, and how the consequences of your actions affect you better…

Reality Check: You need to hold yourself accountable for your behavior at all times (regardless of how icky you may feel).

It’s so easy to spot someone else acting out their insecurities but it’s much more difficult to identify these feelings within ourselves.

The truth is, everyone has felt insecure about something at some point in their lives.

Therefore, if you’re not one to conduct regular wellness checks on yourself, your insecurities may find a way to creep into your relationships and cause preventable issues.

Here are 3 things to look out for within your daily interactions to ensure you’re keeping your insecurities in check:


Someone feeling insecure is likely to outwardly project their sore spots onto those around them. For…

It is no secret that the human mind has evolved in miraculous ways to make life easier for us to process information and perform activities. We can make decisions more quickly because we assign relevant characteristics to almost everything. We even label ourselves according to who we think are, which consciously and subconsciously ignites behaviors that align with these labels. These mental shortcuts can wreak serious havoc on our lives if they are configured negatively, especially if you are beginning a new endeavor that requires a display of productive habits.

Take a moment to evaluate how you see yourself. Create…

Biology has its ups and downs, right? Underarm hair, for some, is just an inconvenience. Although originally developed to keep us safe, our fight-or-flight response to stress emotions such as anger, fear, and even anxiety, can actually negatively affect your long-term decision-making skills. Courtesy of evolution, our bodies naturally produce hormones that work to ensure our short term survival when we’re in danger.

Physiologically, fight-or-flight reactions include an increased heart rate to ensure muscles receive enough oxygen to flee or physically defend yourself; or a literal case of “tunnel vision” where our pupils dilate to aid with night vision.


Sherron Pearson

Based in Los Angeles, I use my words and experience to help others.

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